Why I still love my ex…

I was on the train to London a couple of weeks ago, when it happened. When he called… He spoke the words that no Mother wants to hear. “We are on our way to the hospital.”

Now, you can’t leap off a moving train, nor press a button & turn it back around… so i remained calm as he explained what had happened.

It turns out i didn’t need to panic, nor jump on the first train back again… because he had it all in hand.

Accidents happen, toddlers are crazy. Jasper is a particular brand of wildling; climbing and moving at lightspeed. Perhaps somtimes we forget just how young, and fragile he acually is behind that almighty personality.

Then there’s his Dad. His wonderful Dad. We’ve not been a couple for a year and a half, but… i don’t know what i’d do without him.

He’s my co parent – my team member – my friend – my boy’s Daddy.

Together we put aside anything that was going to stop us raising Jasper in the most emotionally stable way. We wanted him to learn about realism, kindness and acceptance all at once.

We have an open line of communication – of course this brings about debates and disagreements – but we work through them together.

We have respect and admiration for eachothers romantic relationships. We believe the people we have both chosen to be with will only further enrich Jasper’s life.

We are kind to eachother. It almost sounds ridiculous. A point so simple that it need not be made. Yet it is a thing we, as humans, as lovers, as people who have created life together, forget so often.

I know that not every situation is set up to enable effective co parenting. I know relationships end from abuse, and dangerous circumstances, I know that sometimes one parent doesn’t hang around long enough to attempt to co parent.

However, if you can, if there is any chance you could work on enabling a co parenting relationship… then i urge you to do so.

It won’t always be bliss; there’s a reason you guys aren’t together anymore… but there’s also a reason you created life in the first place.

Lets spread positivity – lets watch our children absorb it.

That’s why i still love my ex.